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Yes, I really do need another cane

I like canes. I do not mean that I have quietly learned to tolerate the one I need. I mean I genuinely like them. If I see one with personality, I want to look at it. If someone asks how many canes one person needs, my honest answer is usually: one more.

It is useful, but it is also mine

I use a cane because it helps me get around. That is the practical part. But living with multiple sclerosis already puts enough clinical-looking things in my life. I do not want everything that helps me to feel like it came from a hospital hallway.

A cane comes through the day with me. It is there for the ordinary parts, not just the medical ones. It can be useful and still have some character. Those two things do not cancel each other out.

Why stop at one?

Nobody asks why a person owns more than one pair of shoes. We understand that different days call for different things, and sometimes you simply want a change. I feel the same way about canes.

The practical answer is that I use them. The more honest answer is that I enjoy them. Chronic illness makes enough decisions for me. Choosing something I actually like is one small decision I get to keep.

A cane does not tell you my whole story

People can look at a mobility aid and decide they already know what it means. They may see weakness, age, helplessness, or a person getting worse. That is a lot of story to place on one object.

My cane tells you one useful fact: it helps me move through the day. It does not tell you what I can do, what I care about, how hard I have worked, or whether I am having a good day. You would have to talk to me for that.

Liking it does not make the need less real

Sometimes we talk about mobility aids as if the only respectful response is sadness. I do not believe that. I can need a cane and enjoy it. I can have a hard day and still notice something beautiful or funny. I can take my health seriously without treating every part of it like a tragedy.

Finding a little joy in a tool does not erase the reason I use it. It just means the tool gets to belong to my life instead of my diagnosis.

So yes, I probably want another one

I use a cane. I like canes. I will probably notice yours, and I may ask where you found it. There are harder things to collect, and far less useful ones.

The world gives people with chronic illness plenty of reasons to make ourselves smaller. My cane helps me keep moving, and enjoying it is one quiet way of refusing to disappear.

Glenda Williams

Co-founder, Phoenixckk

Glenda co-founded Phoenixckk. She has spent thirty years in healthcare, and she lives with multiple sclerosis. She helped build Valeska around what actually helps on a hard day, not what looks good in a demo. She writes from real life, not a textbook.